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I was on facebook yesterday and one of my suggested groups was a "You know you went to ______ when..." that was about my first college. I think I've talked about it before, but I'm not sure. I had a horrible time there. My first room mate was a sophomore and she was horrible to me. She lied about my cleanliness and tried to tell people that I put something in her juice that made her sick. I was not even on campus at the time.
My second year, I roomed with a girl we'll call B. She was...special. She was practically deaf and blind, if I remember correctly. And she was not gracious about it. She used to ask me to fix her radio and when I couldn't, she'd throw it at me and scream at me. My then boyfriend now husband lived near my college at the time and I spent most of the time at his place.
So anyway, I found this facebook group of people reminiscing about college. And then I found her name mentioned a few times. I had forgotten her last name but as soon as I saw it, it came back to me.
They were saying how she was "extremely smart, but socially awkward so sadly not many people saw past that to see how smart she was." Uh what?! She couldn't figure out how to change the batteries on her radio and then she'd yell at me when I didn't know how to fix it either. That is neither smart nor socially awkward. That's abusive.
I saw no mention of the false poisoning accusation by my room mate the year before--I'm surprised B made her way into conversation but that didn't.
So anyway, for a minute I thought about joining and setting the record straight, and then I thought, why? They might remember the accusation from the year before and I'd have to relive all that. And if they have fond memories of B, who am I to destroy that? So what if those two years together are pretty much responsible for ruining any prospect of my social life and damaged my ability to make friends from there on out? At least this group of people can laugh about it.
My second year, I roomed with a girl we'll call B. She was...special. She was practically deaf and blind, if I remember correctly. And she was not gracious about it. She used to ask me to fix her radio and when I couldn't, she'd throw it at me and scream at me. My then boyfriend now husband lived near my college at the time and I spent most of the time at his place.
So anyway, I found this facebook group of people reminiscing about college. And then I found her name mentioned a few times. I had forgotten her last name but as soon as I saw it, it came back to me.
They were saying how she was "extremely smart, but socially awkward so sadly not many people saw past that to see how smart she was." Uh what?! She couldn't figure out how to change the batteries on her radio and then she'd yell at me when I didn't know how to fix it either. That is neither smart nor socially awkward. That's abusive.
I saw no mention of the false poisoning accusation by my room mate the year before--I'm surprised B made her way into conversation but that didn't.
So anyway, for a minute I thought about joining and setting the record straight, and then I thought, why? They might remember the accusation from the year before and I'd have to relive all that. And if they have fond memories of B, who am I to destroy that? So what if those two years together are pretty much responsible for ruining any prospect of my social life and damaged my ability to make friends from there on out? At least this group of people can laugh about it.