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[becomingkate]

 It's hard to figure out who you should let know when you're coming and going from vacation. Before we left, I let the creepy mods know, because someone else had to post the FFA for me.  I let my mothers group on facebook know, because I'm there every day yacking away and I let a couple of the creepies know, the ones I talk to almost every day.  But then I come back and I'm like, do I make this big announcement that I'm back?  Does it look egotistical if I do, like I want everyone to jump on me and go OMG WE MISSED YOU HOW DID IT GO?  So I decided not to make a big announcement.  If people miss me they'll message me.  

So I've attempted to do a write up of the experience but I guess I'm tired or it's too recent memory because I just can't do it.  I like, don't even care.  It was okay, but wow.  I return to you a little more over the edge of insanity than I was when I left.  It is effing hard, guys, to spend 8 days, 4 of which are mainly driving, with two people who drive you crazy. 

I have to call my parents and I don't want to.  I'm waiting for my son to get back from the inlaws.  He might spend the night and then all the waiting for him to get back and talk to my parents will be for nothing, but we'll see.  I expect them back soon-as usual, my husband is running a couple hours behind when he said he'd be back.  Awesome.

Not to mention I haven't had anything substantial to eat since lunch yesterday because I happened to catch a stomach bug that has lasted from the day before the cruise to current time.  I don't think it's that weird bug that's going around the country but it sure isn't fun.  

Comments

usually you let them know when you leave

[disgruntledgirl]

"Hey I'll be gone a week" always pad it by 4 extra days - this is to cover a layover, delay, migraine, burn out and decompression.

Then a simply "Whew - back. Will post about trip after I scan my pics."

[seventhbard]

I'm always glad to know so I know people are still safe and doing okay (and I just like to be a part of my friends' lives in whatever ways they're comfortable sharing with me) but it's not like you're obligated to post about it if you don't want to! *hugs!*

Also, don't worry about looking like you "want attention." It's not a sin to be a social primate. You do want attention, you NEED attention, you're human, your brain is wired that way. If I never give you any attention at all what the fuck kind of friend am I? My friends post things. As my own energies and mental crap and whatnot permits, I read or at least skim very nearly all of it, but am certainly not obligated to, and I post when I feel like I can and I have the time or I feel like someone needs me or if I can think of something compelling to say, etc. It brings me joy, it's connection with my friends. It's attention for ME to, a mutual thing. It's giving. It's sharing. It's having friends. It's what you do. I don't resent you and I wouldn't think less of you even if you said "guys I feel crap tonight if you have it in you please come pay attention to me" we're you're friends, and that's what friends do.

So if you can help it/ shut up the braindemons (cuz I know how that goes, too), don't worry about "seeming attention seeking." That's Mean Brain talking. You're okay.

[becomingkate]

Thanks so much for your comment and your comment on the other entry. I'm at my wit's end today and I think if I didn't have this comment to respond to...well I don't know what I'd be doing. But safe to say this is probably better.