I've been realizing that he is the one who's screwed up, too. I mean, I'm screwed up, but it's not just me. I know it's not. I feel like if I call him out on things, then I'm being a hypocrite because I know I also don't handle things well sometimes. And then he'll say he doesn't have time for therapy or if he does go to therapy I'm afraid he won't be 100% honest because he doesn't see anything wrong with how he does things.

It's very hard to explain what's wrong with our relationship but I know that pretty much every time I interact with him I get the opposite result from what I expected/hoped for and I don't know if that's my fault or his or both. Like am I being unrealistic in my expectations or he is off base with his reactions?