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Sep. 8th, 2013 12:59 pm So last night Steve (husband) was playing on World of Warcraft and I was trying to find something to do but I was bored out of my mind, yawning and watching him play (which I never do unless I'm bored). He goes, "Are you having fun?" and I know he's noticed me yawning and looking bored, and I'm thinking gee how clueless, do I look like I'm having fun? But I know he enjoys playing WoW so I'm like yeah I'm fine (figuring I can keep browsing the internets or go watch tv or whatever.
So he kept playing and I left the room and played on my phone on the couch. He came in and he was like What are you doing? So I told him I was bored and just came in here to play on my phone and he went off on me and said I should have told him, and I was like no, I know you'll throw it back at me if you have to stop playing WoW early because you'll get behind on the stuff you have to do and you'll have to log on earlier the next time to get it all done. So no, I'm not going to be the one to tell you to log off WoW so we can actually do something together. I'm just playing on my phone.
So he proceeded to slam my habit of browsing the internet and doing whatever I do on there and I'm like woah, don't you start talking to me about hobbies that are a waste of time. LOL. Sorry, I have hated WoW for years, it's a time sink and it has no heart and soul and it's no fun. You go waste your time how you please and I'll do the same.
So it boiled down to, how come I can tell with just a look or a certain tone of voice when HE is unhappy, but I have to spell it out on paper for him? I'm yawning and I don't even have the heart to get some good music playing and I've stopped drinking two drinks before he did and he's still halfway through a drink and talking about going to bed, and I'm like, how about you stop drinking and we watch something before we go to bed so you don''t feel like shit in the morning.
But why is that...I mean, we've been together 15 years and I can basically tell what he's going to say before he does, or how he REALLY feels about what I'm making for dinner, but he cannot tell when I'm yawning and getting that glazed look, that maybe I'm bored? He said he just took what I said at face value, that I wasn't bored. He wouldn't even admit it that yes he would resent it if I asked him to log off WoW. AND I KNOW HE WOULD because I've had stuff like that thrown back at me. Whatever.
So he kept playing and I left the room and played on my phone on the couch. He came in and he was like What are you doing? So I told him I was bored and just came in here to play on my phone and he went off on me and said I should have told him, and I was like no, I know you'll throw it back at me if you have to stop playing WoW early because you'll get behind on the stuff you have to do and you'll have to log on earlier the next time to get it all done. So no, I'm not going to be the one to tell you to log off WoW so we can actually do something together. I'm just playing on my phone.
So he proceeded to slam my habit of browsing the internet and doing whatever I do on there and I'm like woah, don't you start talking to me about hobbies that are a waste of time. LOL. Sorry, I have hated WoW for years, it's a time sink and it has no heart and soul and it's no fun. You go waste your time how you please and I'll do the same.
So it boiled down to, how come I can tell with just a look or a certain tone of voice when HE is unhappy, but I have to spell it out on paper for him? I'm yawning and I don't even have the heart to get some good music playing and I've stopped drinking two drinks before he did and he's still halfway through a drink and talking about going to bed, and I'm like, how about you stop drinking and we watch something before we go to bed so you don''t feel like shit in the morning.
But why is that...I mean, we've been together 15 years and I can basically tell what he's going to say before he does, or how he REALLY feels about what I'm making for dinner, but he cannot tell when I'm yawning and getting that glazed look, that maybe I'm bored? He said he just took what I said at face value, that I wasn't bored. He wouldn't even admit it that yes he would resent it if I asked him to log off WoW. AND I KNOW HE WOULD because I've had stuff like that thrown back at me. Whatever.
