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Feb. 28th, 2013 12:13 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
becomingkateHad a sort of weird conversation online last night with a sort of-friend from church-as much as you can be friends with someone you rarely hang out with outside of church but who is perfectly nice and you could see yourself being friends, but never like, invites you to do stuff. She made my son's birthday cake this year and I went with her to a concert once. She's always very bubbly and funny and just cool.
And while I'm talking about this, can I just mention that I was standing right there at church the other day when a group of other "friends" of this sort was trading phone numbers and making plans and nobody included me. Didn't these people learn in middle school...no, KINDERGARTEN, that that's rude? So that was awkward, but I digress.
Anyway so this woman, we'll call her M, messaged me out of the blue and asked me if I was going on the nkotb tour. I said yes I was going with a friend to one of the dates at Mohegan Sun. I asked M if she was thinking of going to Boston (it's closer). She said no, she wanted to go to Mohegan too. She said only opening night was available now and I said oh that would be cool if you go to opening night!
At this point I wasn't sure if she was sort of backhandedly asking me to go with her. She said "I want my husband to get me tickets but I have nobody to go with and I don't want to go alone." Okay... So I said, "I might know someone. LOL" M laughed it off and said she wasn't sure if she could afford tix and I was like well, just make sure whoever you go with can pay you back. I don't know if she was asking me to buy her ticket, too, or what?
So I decided, if M's going to beat around the bush I'm going to be straightforward. I straight up said "If I go with you I can pay for my ticket." I was having a margarita and I felt bold. I mean I know she doesn't hate me and it's just a concert so it's not like she has to talk to me all that much, if it gets awkward, and hey I've done the whole "tag along with someone at a concert" thing and it's not that bad.
At the same time, I was looking at facebook and I saw one of our other mutual "friends" had commented to M that she wanted to go, too. So then I felt dumb and I said "If you're already going with someone else I could tag along" which was REALLY stupid, so then I said "Not as a third wheel thing, but if you're going with a group I'd love to come." (Did I mention I've lost whatever social graces I ever had?) She said "We'll see."
SO WHAT EXACTLY WAS THE POINT OF THE CONVERSATION!?
I'm thinking (hoping) she's sometimes just as socially awkward as I am sometimes.
And while I'm talking about this, can I just mention that I was standing right there at church the other day when a group of other "friends" of this sort was trading phone numbers and making plans and nobody included me. Didn't these people learn in middle school...no, KINDERGARTEN, that that's rude? So that was awkward, but I digress.
Anyway so this woman, we'll call her M, messaged me out of the blue and asked me if I was going on the nkotb tour. I said yes I was going with a friend to one of the dates at Mohegan Sun. I asked M if she was thinking of going to Boston (it's closer). She said no, she wanted to go to Mohegan too. She said only opening night was available now and I said oh that would be cool if you go to opening night!
At this point I wasn't sure if she was sort of backhandedly asking me to go with her. She said "I want my husband to get me tickets but I have nobody to go with and I don't want to go alone." Okay... So I said, "I might know someone. LOL" M laughed it off and said she wasn't sure if she could afford tix and I was like well, just make sure whoever you go with can pay you back. I don't know if she was asking me to buy her ticket, too, or what?
So I decided, if M's going to beat around the bush I'm going to be straightforward. I straight up said "If I go with you I can pay for my ticket." I was having a margarita and I felt bold. I mean I know she doesn't hate me and it's just a concert so it's not like she has to talk to me all that much, if it gets awkward, and hey I've done the whole "tag along with someone at a concert" thing and it's not that bad.
At the same time, I was looking at facebook and I saw one of our other mutual "friends" had commented to M that she wanted to go, too. So then I felt dumb and I said "If you're already going with someone else I could tag along" which was REALLY stupid, so then I said "Not as a third wheel thing, but if you're going with a group I'd love to come." (Did I mention I've lost whatever social graces I ever had?) She said "We'll see."
SO WHAT EXACTLY WAS THE POINT OF THE CONVERSATION!?
I'm thinking (hoping) she's sometimes just as socially awkward as I am sometimes.
