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becomingkateBecause everyone knows women can't have rational thoughts while they're on their period! Isn't it great when you feel like you're having legit feelings of despair and then you find out it's just your period? What a relief!
And why is it that every single gut reaction I have turns out to be the wrong one? My son was looking at a copy of The Hobbit that our church had on display (and not like, in a negative way). The direction of religious education saw him looking at it and let him borrow it for a month. Problem is? We're already in the middle of our copy of The Hobbit, and now he wants to read this one. I told him I am not reading The Hobbit again. I do not want to start over. This is already our second read through! I want to read a new book! LOL
I have no idea how to approach this. I tried to tell him we could look at the pictures in the church copy and read from the copy we have. He wouldn't have that.
I'm thinking maybe I can read to him from one and he can try to follow along in the other? He's just learning to read, but maybe he'd be able to follow along with me okay?
Last night I laughed at something and my son acted like it was a big deal that I was laughing. Does he not realize I'm always in a good mood when we start our day, or when he comes home, and that I just can't handle the constant bickering and disagreements and other things that generally wear people down? I love doing things with the kid. I love teaching him to cook, or helping him read, and everything. It's the attitude I can't stand. It's demoralizing to have someone disagree and disobey with everything, and I mean everything. I'm not exaggerating here. I can't get through one sentence without being ignored, disobeyed or disagreed with. And I don't understand how other parents don't let it get to them. If it were an adult doing this to me it would be abuse. But because he's a child he can get away with it and meanwhile it's killing my soul.
I was at church yesterday and I just felt like I was invisible. I was a little late getting to the service after dropping off my son at his class and I sat next to two people I've talked to before. They're on my facebook and in the church parents group on facebook. I've talked to them there. They acted like they'd never seen me before. My profile pic is my own face. I guess maybe they hadn't taken a good look at the pic before. I said hi to various other people and they said hi and looked at me blankly.
Then whenever people do talk to me I just feel so boring. I'm not doing anything with myself and I see how lame that is. Then I came home with a costume for my son for the lion king show he's in. The problem is it's a Simba costume (and it's obvious too, it's Simba's colors and it says Simba across the belly). My son is going to be Scar. Now, the person who gave this to me is on facebook too and when I asked in the church group if anyone had any lion costume parts I could borrow she said she'd bring it. Could she not have saved us all some trouble if she had said "It's a Simba costume?" Because I would have said don't bother to bring it. I'm not upstaging poor Simba.
I know she was trying to help. But then she said "Oh my kids were upset that I was giving it to you because they want it back" and then she insists I keep it when I tell her it's the wrong character and she says "You can dye it black or something!" Yeah that's a great idea, I'm going to take your kid's costume that he wants back and give it back to him a different color. Then she's like "Meh, whatever, you don't have to bring it back." Okay...
And why is it that every single gut reaction I have turns out to be the wrong one? My son was looking at a copy of The Hobbit that our church had on display (and not like, in a negative way). The direction of religious education saw him looking at it and let him borrow it for a month. Problem is? We're already in the middle of our copy of The Hobbit, and now he wants to read this one. I told him I am not reading The Hobbit again. I do not want to start over. This is already our second read through! I want to read a new book! LOL
I have no idea how to approach this. I tried to tell him we could look at the pictures in the church copy and read from the copy we have. He wouldn't have that.
I'm thinking maybe I can read to him from one and he can try to follow along in the other? He's just learning to read, but maybe he'd be able to follow along with me okay?
Last night I laughed at something and my son acted like it was a big deal that I was laughing. Does he not realize I'm always in a good mood when we start our day, or when he comes home, and that I just can't handle the constant bickering and disagreements and other things that generally wear people down? I love doing things with the kid. I love teaching him to cook, or helping him read, and everything. It's the attitude I can't stand. It's demoralizing to have someone disagree and disobey with everything, and I mean everything. I'm not exaggerating here. I can't get through one sentence without being ignored, disobeyed or disagreed with. And I don't understand how other parents don't let it get to them. If it were an adult doing this to me it would be abuse. But because he's a child he can get away with it and meanwhile it's killing my soul.
I was at church yesterday and I just felt like I was invisible. I was a little late getting to the service after dropping off my son at his class and I sat next to two people I've talked to before. They're on my facebook and in the church parents group on facebook. I've talked to them there. They acted like they'd never seen me before. My profile pic is my own face. I guess maybe they hadn't taken a good look at the pic before. I said hi to various other people and they said hi and looked at me blankly.
Then whenever people do talk to me I just feel so boring. I'm not doing anything with myself and I see how lame that is. Then I came home with a costume for my son for the lion king show he's in. The problem is it's a Simba costume (and it's obvious too, it's Simba's colors and it says Simba across the belly). My son is going to be Scar. Now, the person who gave this to me is on facebook too and when I asked in the church group if anyone had any lion costume parts I could borrow she said she'd bring it. Could she not have saved us all some trouble if she had said "It's a Simba costume?" Because I would have said don't bother to bring it. I'm not upstaging poor Simba.
I know she was trying to help. But then she said "Oh my kids were upset that I was giving it to you because they want it back" and then she insists I keep it when I tell her it's the wrong character and she says "You can dye it black or something!" Yeah that's a great idea, I'm going to take your kid's costume that he wants back and give it back to him a different color. Then she's like "Meh, whatever, you don't have to bring it back." Okay...
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Date: 2013-03-04 08:09 pm (UTC)BRILLIANT!! Go For it!!
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Date: 2013-03-05 07:40 pm (UTC)I'm sorry I haven't been commenting on your posts so much lately! I have actually read them all and I will have thoughts but then I'll go to leave encouragement and solidarity in them and am like "words... words in English... how do I, uh?"
So hey we can be awkward together and it's awesome yay!
Also I'm sorry your son is in a stage where he's such a stinker with you. How old is he again? I'm sure there must be interventions that can try and suss out the reason behind his general defiance and give the family new emotional/communication tools where you can all cope better together. I just can't think it's totally okay that he runs you ragged to the point that it interferes with your enjoyment of time with him and there's just no help or support out there to be found. There must be family counseling or something. I don't know what resources you have access to though. Anyway good luck! Maybe he'll grow out of it-- here's hoping it's soon if so. XD
*hugs*
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Date: 2013-03-05 09:01 pm (UTC)And don't worry about leaving comments! Just some nice thoughts are enough :)
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Date: 2013-03-05 09:29 pm (UTC)I am always thinking rainbows for ya. ;)
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Date: 2013-03-05 10:12 pm (UTC)I'm sure she was just used to dealing with terrors-kids who swear and trash her office and are generally disrespectful but my son is great because he's not a problem for anyone but his parents. LOL