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Nov. 20th, 2013 12:50 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I had an online friend who I used to talk to a lot. We kind of bonded because our sons are the same age. She used to say her son looks at pictures I post of my son and calls him his friend. We don't live too far apart, about 4 hours, but we have never met.
Recently she just stopped talking to me and is ignoring my facebook messages. We were also in the same close group of women on facebook that spun off from another parenting site, where we met. There was some fallout in the facebook group and she left because she disliked a couple of the women there and she felt they were purposely ignoring her, and when they weren't ignoring her, they were being snarky. Since she left we still talked some, but recently I was getting rid of some of Josh's books and I messaged her to see if she wanted any. She never responded.
I don't know if she's upset because I didn't send anything to her pregnant daughter for her baby shower, or if I didn't offer the books to the daughter instead of her, but I honestly didn't think of it. I don't often send things to people I don't know, even if I feel I can trust them with my address. One, I'm lazy, and two, I just don't. I don't donate money to people, I don't buy gifts for online friends for Christmas. I have done card exchanges and other swaps but not often.
I don't know if I should persist, or just let it go. There's always a lot going on in her life, with her kids, herself, her family, so maybe she's just busy and overlooked the message, but I sent her two. I don't want to ask anyone else in the facebook group if they still talk to her, because it's still sort of a sore spot that she left. Other people don't see the cattiness she experienced. I see it, and I'm not overly warm towards the two, but I'm not about to leave the group over it.
Which raises another point, is she mad that I'm still in the group and speaking to those women even though she told me these two women are not actively supporting her?
Here I go again, refusing to pick sides. I'm still not sure if that's a wise choice or not, always trying to remain neutral.
Recently she just stopped talking to me and is ignoring my facebook messages. We were also in the same close group of women on facebook that spun off from another parenting site, where we met. There was some fallout in the facebook group and she left because she disliked a couple of the women there and she felt they were purposely ignoring her, and when they weren't ignoring her, they were being snarky. Since she left we still talked some, but recently I was getting rid of some of Josh's books and I messaged her to see if she wanted any. She never responded.
I don't know if she's upset because I didn't send anything to her pregnant daughter for her baby shower, or if I didn't offer the books to the daughter instead of her, but I honestly didn't think of it. I don't often send things to people I don't know, even if I feel I can trust them with my address. One, I'm lazy, and two, I just don't. I don't donate money to people, I don't buy gifts for online friends for Christmas. I have done card exchanges and other swaps but not often.
I don't know if I should persist, or just let it go. There's always a lot going on in her life, with her kids, herself, her family, so maybe she's just busy and overlooked the message, but I sent her two. I don't want to ask anyone else in the facebook group if they still talk to her, because it's still sort of a sore spot that she left. Other people don't see the cattiness she experienced. I see it, and I'm not overly warm towards the two, but I'm not about to leave the group over it.
Which raises another point, is she mad that I'm still in the group and speaking to those women even though she told me these two women are not actively supporting her?
Here I go again, refusing to pick sides. I'm still not sure if that's a wise choice or not, always trying to remain neutral.