It's cold and I need things at Target but I don't want to go outside! LOL
I'm still really concerned about Josh's social life. It worries me that nobody ever asks for his phone number. Are these kids hanging out with other friends or are they really too young to be going over to other houses all the time? I don't really remember being 5, 6, 7. I guess if you don't live near your friends you don't really have time to go over. Most people have more than one kid, and do things on the weekend. Josh is already asking to have sleepovers with his friends and he's confused when I tell him the parents said they don't do sleepovers yet.
I hate to drone on about my son. I bore myself, sometimes. I just...worry. Like I said, this is what parents do. Even when everything is probably fine, it's our job to worry.
So my husband's grandparents are not doing well. Because his grandparents and parents both had their kids young, his grandparents are only in their 70's. Only 10 years or so older than my parents, which is weird to think about. But anyway, his grandparents have not been speaking to us for a long time. There is a rift between his grandparents and his parents so we have been speaking to his parents and not his grandparents. It's weird and a very long story. Anyway, for some reason his grandmother decided to finally call and tell us she and her husband have been in nursing homes for about a month. And then they tried to send his grandfather home, but he is frail and not all there mentally and couldn't get by in the house alone so he went back to a different nursing home. The place his grandmother is in is more like a hospital, because she had shoulder surgery, so that's why they are in different places, but now his grandfather wants to be in the same place as his wife (after initially vehemently disagreeing with this idea, which is weird, but whatever), so they are trying to get him into the place his grandmother is in.
This is a first for both me and my husband: I was too young to have anything to do with it when my grandparents were ailing. The only grandparent I really remember is my dad's mom, and I also remember her mom a bit, and I don't think either of them went into a home. My husband of course has not dealt with elderly relatives, either, since we don't talk to his father's side.
So I guess we are trying to be advocates for them, which was hard when they wanted different things, but now I hope that since they want to be in the same place, that we can help make that happen.
In other news, my son told me last night that he prays. My husband and I are not very religious--well, my husband isn't at all--although he used to practice Wicca he claims he doesn't believe in the whole god/goddess thing anymore and I've been dabbling in Wicca recently, so I wouldn't say I'm religious in the traditional way either. Anyway, when I was asking my son if he wanted to talk about anything at bedtime, he said "I want to talk about God." He pulled out a little bag of polished stones that his therapist gave him (to help with anger management) and put them in a circle on his pillow. "I make a circle with these and then I pray," he said. I asked him what he prays for. Does he ask for things or thank God for things, or what? He said, "I just say to God, I hope you're doing well and that you stay alive." (He believes God is a living thing.)
I have friends who are non-religious to varying degrees and they always say they have to stifle themselves if their kids start talking about God. I don't react this way. I think it's wonderful that he has come up with his own beliefs and his own ritual. I think that is much more wonderful than me teaching him something, and him just following it because that's what he was taught.
My son made me think about infinity last night. He said, "There has to be a god, because who made science? Before anything existed, who made it? Who made dust?" And I kept trying to think about how to explain that the universe (in one form or another) has always been here, but how do you explain forever to a 6 year old who doesn't quite understand the concept?
My head hurts.