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Apr. 23rd, 2019 01:48 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
becomingkate Things have been okay. I keep gaining and losing the same couple lbs., which is annoying, but I'm working on it.
My son has been extra difficult lately. Those of you who've been with me a while or read some old posts know that he's always been a challenge. We found out in 2nd grade that he has a high IQ, and that explains some of it, but doesn't really help me deal with it. He's had a couple therapists who weren't really helpful, and my husband and I have also had therapists, but tend to talk about marital issues rather than our son's issues. I took him in at the beginning of the month for ADHD testing, which I'm waiting to hear back from.
He's just been extra angry all the time, and it's hurtful, both to be treated like that and to see him like that. He acts like he doesn't get any privileges, and that everything I do is wrong. He doesn't act quite as badly towards my husband, but my husband isn't home as much so he deals with it in small doses, whereas I have to deal with the problem, dole out consequences, and then see the consequences through, which is much easier than when my husband comes home and says "no screen time tomorrow" and then gets to go to work the next day.
I mean, I was probably the same way when I was a kid. But it seems reasonable when you're the one doing it, you know? Not when you see the kid just being irrationally angry and you don't really know what's going on.
I think what makes me sad the most is, he's always been kind of at odds with us. He always wants to get his way and doesn't care whose feelings he hurts to get it. And people kept telling me, oh, it gets better around 4 or 5, then 9 or 10...and it didn't. Now he's at the brink of his teen years, which I know are generally not a highlight. So I certainly hope he has a rewarding adulthood :P
It hasn't been all bad. I'm grateful that he's felt comfortable enough to come to me about past issues with friends, and the girl drama he had a couple months ago. It makes me feel like maybe he doesn't mean it when he says I'm an awful parent. He's incredibly bright, funny, from what I hear he's kind to his friends and classmates at school. I just wish we could see more of that at home. But I get it, we're his parents, not real people :P
My son has been extra difficult lately. Those of you who've been with me a while or read some old posts know that he's always been a challenge. We found out in 2nd grade that he has a high IQ, and that explains some of it, but doesn't really help me deal with it. He's had a couple therapists who weren't really helpful, and my husband and I have also had therapists, but tend to talk about marital issues rather than our son's issues. I took him in at the beginning of the month for ADHD testing, which I'm waiting to hear back from.
He's just been extra angry all the time, and it's hurtful, both to be treated like that and to see him like that. He acts like he doesn't get any privileges, and that everything I do is wrong. He doesn't act quite as badly towards my husband, but my husband isn't home as much so he deals with it in small doses, whereas I have to deal with the problem, dole out consequences, and then see the consequences through, which is much easier than when my husband comes home and says "no screen time tomorrow" and then gets to go to work the next day.
I mean, I was probably the same way when I was a kid. But it seems reasonable when you're the one doing it, you know? Not when you see the kid just being irrationally angry and you don't really know what's going on.
I think what makes me sad the most is, he's always been kind of at odds with us. He always wants to get his way and doesn't care whose feelings he hurts to get it. And people kept telling me, oh, it gets better around 4 or 5, then 9 or 10...and it didn't. Now he's at the brink of his teen years, which I know are generally not a highlight. So I certainly hope he has a rewarding adulthood :P
It hasn't been all bad. I'm grateful that he's felt comfortable enough to come to me about past issues with friends, and the girl drama he had a couple months ago. It makes me feel like maybe he doesn't mean it when he says I'm an awful parent. He's incredibly bright, funny, from what I hear he's kind to his friends and classmates at school. I just wish we could see more of that at home. But I get it, we're his parents, not real people :P
