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Aug. 24th, 2013 12:01 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
becomingkate So my husband says "You know, they put out all these songs and things about how 'you're gonna miss this' [watching children grow up] but I think we're the kind of people who are gonna send him to college and then [he throws his hands up in the air] 'Wooo!' We'll already have our bags packed in the car for a two week vacation."
And he's right...I mean we love him and care for him but we certainly don't want more or even really feel the monumental change in our lives that one is taught that you're supposed to feel when your kids are born. The skies didn't open up and the heavens didn't sing and nothing really suddenly changed. Things just kind of shifted. I learned that repeating myself, the same things, daily, was to become my life. I learned that I was rarely going to wake up on my own anymore. I learned that my body would never get used to being rudely awoken, that I'd never be the kind of mom who likes to run around and play softball and help dig holes. I learned that it didn't really matter what I want anymore.
I don't like my neighbors and their kids :( The girl is 8 or so and the boy is 3, maybe...Josh sort of has a crush on the girl, I think, but she doesn't play with him much. The boy is just getting old enough to kind of hang out with Josh. But their parents don't watch them at all. The boy keeps throwing their balls over our fence and our dog gets them and chews them up (leaving foam all over our yard). Their yard is not fenced in so the kids just roam around the neighborhood and I'm not really ready to let Josh go do that. We were trying to eat lunch on the porch and the boy kept calling "Joshuer! Are you done yet?" It got so bad we went back inside. I just wish people would keep an eye on their kids, you know? How am I supposed to teach Josh about privacy if the neighbors don't teach their kids not to climb up on the fence and yell at us while we're eating? The parents never speak to me. They don't invite Josh over, so we don't invite them over. I followed their dog because she walked out of their yard and down the street and the boy was panicking thinking the dog was running away so I followed it and led her back-she had no collar so I couldn't even put our leash on her. The husband came up and put her collar and leash on and walked off without a word.
The other kid in the neighborhood is never outside. I think he may have some kind of developmental issue because I never see him outside or playing with any kids and when we've tried to talk to him he won't answer and his mother speaks for him. They told us like 3 months ago to "come over anytime" but I'm not the kind of person to just come over uninvited and Josh is upset with me. He thinks I'm deliberately depriving him of having friends. I really hope they let kids exchange phone numbers this year. They didn't in K so Josh never had any friends over.
Not long after I posted this, I looked outside where my son was playing and I saw the neighbor dad lift his son over our fence. No heads up, no asking, just woop, here's another kid to look after. And I mean, it might be okay, like when I saw him retrieving his dog, if he'd said "Is it okay if my son comes over?" but what if I hadn't looked out there for some time? I wouldn't have known he was here (well, aside from the noise they're making)
Am I cranky or what? I feel like one of those "Get off my lawn!" people. But I'm not a huge fan of uninvited guests. And this kid listens worse than my son does. LOL
And he's right...I mean we love him and care for him but we certainly don't want more or even really feel the monumental change in our lives that one is taught that you're supposed to feel when your kids are born. The skies didn't open up and the heavens didn't sing and nothing really suddenly changed. Things just kind of shifted. I learned that repeating myself, the same things, daily, was to become my life. I learned that I was rarely going to wake up on my own anymore. I learned that my body would never get used to being rudely awoken, that I'd never be the kind of mom who likes to run around and play softball and help dig holes. I learned that it didn't really matter what I want anymore.
I don't like my neighbors and their kids :( The girl is 8 or so and the boy is 3, maybe...Josh sort of has a crush on the girl, I think, but she doesn't play with him much. The boy is just getting old enough to kind of hang out with Josh. But their parents don't watch them at all. The boy keeps throwing their balls over our fence and our dog gets them and chews them up (leaving foam all over our yard). Their yard is not fenced in so the kids just roam around the neighborhood and I'm not really ready to let Josh go do that. We were trying to eat lunch on the porch and the boy kept calling "Joshuer! Are you done yet?" It got so bad we went back inside. I just wish people would keep an eye on their kids, you know? How am I supposed to teach Josh about privacy if the neighbors don't teach their kids not to climb up on the fence and yell at us while we're eating? The parents never speak to me. They don't invite Josh over, so we don't invite them over. I followed their dog because she walked out of their yard and down the street and the boy was panicking thinking the dog was running away so I followed it and led her back-she had no collar so I couldn't even put our leash on her. The husband came up and put her collar and leash on and walked off without a word.
The other kid in the neighborhood is never outside. I think he may have some kind of developmental issue because I never see him outside or playing with any kids and when we've tried to talk to him he won't answer and his mother speaks for him. They told us like 3 months ago to "come over anytime" but I'm not the kind of person to just come over uninvited and Josh is upset with me. He thinks I'm deliberately depriving him of having friends. I really hope they let kids exchange phone numbers this year. They didn't in K so Josh never had any friends over.
Not long after I posted this, I looked outside where my son was playing and I saw the neighbor dad lift his son over our fence. No heads up, no asking, just woop, here's another kid to look after. And I mean, it might be okay, like when I saw him retrieving his dog, if he'd said "Is it okay if my son comes over?" but what if I hadn't looked out there for some time? I wouldn't have known he was here (well, aside from the noise they're making)
Am I cranky or what? I feel like one of those "Get off my lawn!" people. But I'm not a huge fan of uninvited guests. And this kid listens worse than my son does. LOL
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Date: 2013-08-24 07:28 pm (UTC)Maybe try next time the kid's just dumped in your yard, lifting him back over the fence and saying with a smile, "Sorry, I can't today!" then go do something outside the house with your kid for a few hours. Park or library or movies or something, you know? This is him taking advantage of you, and I know how agonising it can be to say NO, but until you do, he will think this behavior is perfectly okay.
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Date: 2013-08-25 08:54 pm (UTC)I'm so sorry you live in Stupidville. *hugs*